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How Can You Be an Effective Long-Distance Caregiver?

In the US today, as many as seven million people are currently helping to take care of a parent, spouse or friend long distance. About 60% of these caregivers are women.

So what is considered “long-distance caregiving?” When you live over an hour away from the person who needs to be cared for, you are considered a long-distance caregiver. It may seem to you that sometimes you are not all that effective; that you are not there when you are needed most. However, there are many things that you can do to help from far away that are effective and significant to the wellbeing of your loved one.

Here is a list of some of the things you can do to help out:

  • Provide emotional support through phone calls or Skype

  • Manage financial and insurance matters

  • Arrange and monitor in-home care

  • Support the primary caregiver

  • Create a website for communicating with family and friends

  • Plan occasional trips to help with things that need to be fixed around the house, or to spend time with your loved one and give the primary caregiver a break

  • Arrange for grocery deliveries

  • Organize periodic family meetings (conference calls or Skype) to discuss care

So now you have some idea of what can be accomplished, but you still have some questions about how. Let’s take a look at a few of them.

How do I know when additional support is needed?

You may have to take on the role of detective in order to figure out if additional help is needed. Pay attention during phone conversations. Try to focus the discussion on daily routines such as meal preparation, cleaning, shopping and medical attention. You might be able to determine whether your family member is getting overwhelmed with the responsibility of caring for someone. You might be able to discover clues about how hard it is to prepare meals. Those clues will give you ideas about how you can assume responsibility and help even from far away. For example, perhaps dad is struggling with meal preparation and resorts to fast food a lot. You could arrange through his church group, friends and family or hospice volunteers to have meals brought in or prepared in the home for him.

Can I help with financial planning in any way?

Of course! In addition to financial issues, you can take care of all personal information for your loved one. The task of gathering it all may be monstrous, but once you have it all together, you will be able to react to any kind of crisis quickly. Much of this information is online and easy to access. You can be the central hub for things like home ownership, insurance paperwork and legal issues. This will also take the burden off the primary caregiver so they can focus just on the physical and mental aspects of caring.

I know my mom only has a few months to live, but I can’t take that much time off work? What do I do?

This is never an easy situation and can be made more difficult because of distance. Hospice Care of the Southwest can help ease your conscience and provide outstanding care for your family member. Our caregivers are experienced in end of life care and are trained to help by improving the quality of life for your loved one.

Seek emotional support from a clergy, support groups or friends. Make sure you are taking care of yourself through this stressful time.

Visit as often as you can. When you can’t be there, send cards and letters. You could set up a computer so you can have actual face time with your family member when you can’t be there in person. Let your loved one know what an important person they have been in your life.

Remember no matter what you are able to do help, it will be appreciated. Even just letting your family caregiver know how grateful you are they are there and being their emotional support system will do more then you know.

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